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00:02 And today we’re talking about worry. So mind noise has been a really strong topic, and I think you will understand when I say it’s probably one of the most important topics that we talk about in in a wealth. 00:20 Let’s go through a few things. Firstly, we want to learn the power of silence. That is the ability to not speak and the ability to not think, the ability to not turn up, but be available, which is called listen. 00:36 Second thing is we wanna reduce the, the, the scatter, the, the frequency, the vibrations, the rattling that goes on through a sequence of 20 or so words that I’ve come up with so far, we’ve done uncertainty, confusion, doubt, anger, emotion. 00:54 And today we are doing worry. So we want to be able to control the noises that are going on inside our brain. 01:02 Now, why? Because once we’ve quietened the mind, intuition starts to function. That’s very important. But more importantly, once we quieten the mind and empty it, once intuition starts to function, the third step, which is which I’m going to cover this month, is how to turn on the megaphone. 01:28 The megaphone is the, the, the thing inside your brain that is actually projecting thought. Now, The science is clear. People know what you think. 01:40 The science is clear that people meet you in a blink and very rarely change their opinion about you after they blink something projects out of us all. 01:55 If you are at a party with a depressed person, you know they’re depressed. You know, they’re sad if your partner is walking around the house with a long face. 02:09 Even if you were blind, you could feel it. And unfortunately, we don’t trust those feelings. And we say to the partner or the person, are you okay? 02:19 We know they’re not, but we don’t trust those intuition because the mind noise that’s going on inside us confuses us. 02:29 So quieting down the mind noise is step one, Trusting the silence is step two. And then turning on the megaphone is step three. 02:40 And step three is gonna be fabulous. But first, please bear with me while I continue to go through the things that cause my noise and how to deal with them nature’s way, how to deal with them real way, how to deal with them honestly, and how not to have to be a psychiatrist or a psychologist or some such thing in order to just simply quieten down the mind. 03:05 Today we’re talking about worry. So what is a worry? A worry is a rumination inside your mind. There is a mathematics taking place, and the mathematics that takes place can either be reconciliation of worry, or it can magnify it. 03:29 And the mathematics inside your brain that will either agitate, worry, or or deal with it or suppress it comes back to your belief system. 03:40 Now, worry about something you can change is probably a healthy worry about something you can’t change is obviously ridiculous. So worrying about the past isn’t really the problem. 04:00 We are worrying about its effect on the future. So all worry turns in some way or another towards the future. 04:09 Worry about the future. And I think this is very important for us all because the mathematics of worry is the combative forces inside the brain competing for attention. 04:24 For, for example, there are seven areas of life, spiritual, mental, social, career, financial, health, and relationship. Those seven areas of life are all fighting for priority. 04:36 And so worry can be when something seems right in one area of life, but contradictory in another, and therefore the future seems uncertain. 04:45 Worry can be that what we, we know that what we are doing right now is not healthy. And we are worried that it will catch up with us in the future. 04:55 We, we do something that we know has a sequence. Worry can also be that things won’t go the way we want them to. 05:07 One of the reasons that I think the universal laws of nature is really important foundation for us is to eliminate worry. 05:16 Firstly, on the first law of nature, it, if you remember it, it teaches you that there’s two sides to everything. 05:23 We already know that it doesn’t really, we are not, you’re not learning that for the first time. You’ve known it all your life. 05:29 There’s two sides to everything. But when you realize that every emotion we have is a lopsided thought, we, we can see the root course cause of worry, because worry is the bo the mind vacillating between the positives and the negatives and the positives and the negative. 05:50 The second law is everything grows. In other words, whatever challenge you are going through, and this is the experience of my life that the more painful, the experience that I have to go through in life, the more joyful the reward. 06:07 And it’s not about penance or going through something that is that is a result of doing something bad. You have to go through a penance for it. 06:19 When, when we arrive at a new place, firstly, we didn’t expect it to be so good. And the reason it’s so good is because we went through a lot of hurt to get there. 06:32 And so it’s really unfortunate. A lot of people take their life during the course of the pain of transition, the pain of learning, the pain of growing, and we become a different person as a result of suffering a re a result of pain. 06:47 And so sometimes when we relieve pain from a child or relieve pain from someone, we’re saying it’s a bad thing, but it’s not. 06:54 It’s actually a necessary part of evolving and growing and transitioning to the new thing. Every time I’ve gone through pain, the quality of the outcome, the quality of my result, the surprise I get, the joy I get at the end of it is equal, absolutely equal to the depth and the length of time that I spent in that discomfort. 07:19 Worry is worrying that what’s gonna happen won’t be good. Worry is worrying is, is is contemplating or deliberating or ruminating on the possibilities of the future. 07:32 I always say to people, one way to eliminate worry is just take the worst thing that could happen in the future and accept it, find the benefit of it, learn to start to work out how that could be. 07:43 Okay? I remember when I came back from New York and the World Trade Center had fallen. I was 57 million. The poorer our house burnt down in clus, we lost everything. 07:55 The insurance only gave us enough money to to pay out the mortgage. So we couldn’t eat. We still owned the land, but we couldn’t rebuild. 08:03 So we had to have a f what’s literally called a fire sale. The, the front door of our office in Sydney got padlocked by the landlord who actually bought the house, by the way, which is really wet. 08:16 But locked us out with all 35 staff members, computers and all the, the operating, the, the, in that. And, and in that same month, I had a hundred thousand hate mails from words that I had put up on on, on my website about a program I was going to run at First Nation Canada. 08:37 So it felt like the s**t had fallen out of everything. It felt like the world was coming to an end. 08:45 And, but I never worried I in some way, I said, well, if I end up painting footpaths or mowing lawns that’s kind of okay. 08:57 It’s a little easy for me because I don’t, my kids are grown up and, and I’ve paid out their bills, and so I don’t have that dependency. 09:05 But at the same token, I have my things like pride and, and brand and, and things I’ve worked for. And I just wrote it all off and I said, worst case scenario, everything’s gone. 09:16 Which materially it was. But spiritually, I’m still here. And actually, I went through the, the thing that I call the worst case. 09:26 I lived it. And, and it actually wasn’t as bad as I had projected it could feel. So I think one of the things about preventing worry is to as I said take the worst case and try to find how it would be okay. 09:43 I think the other part of it is to learn that everything happens for a reason. The last, the third law of the universe is, is that nothing’s ever missing, just changes in form. 09:55 And so when we lost our 57 million and we lost our house and we lost everything, and we lost the business, we lost it all after the World Trade Center, I just said, nothing’s ever missing. 10:06 Just changes in form. What’s the new form? I was traveling the world as a speaker. I was going to engagements. 10:13 I was doing corporate training. All of a sudden I was back in Sydney renting an apartment and trying to make ends meet. 10:22 But somehow my relationship with clients, my business, and somehow I just found new, new ways to express itself. And I wrote five books. 10:31 I cashed my super in and and funded myself for, for a year, writing five books, which sold five copies, which is fantastic. 10:41 But the most important thing about those five books, it anchored me in the work that I do. And, and, you know, I’m still living off that, what is it, 23 years later or so, I think the fourth law is gratitude and the the law of harmony, which is what we think we attract. 10:58 And if you, if you, if you can see it, a criminal moves to a new city, it’s not long before they’re surrounded by criminals, somebody at work who’s complaining and moping about the company, this and this and shrinking. 11:13 They attract other people who are also shrinking. So we attract our thoughts and therefore worry attracts the very thing that it’s worried about. 11:27 So it actually is not necessarily a wise thing to do. So going back to the concept of the mind noise that comes from worry, the solution is a short pencil ruminating which is laziness. 11:45 There’s just only other word for it. When we are so lazy that we don’t draw four columns and start ruminating on paper, it’s because our ego wants us to be right. 11:58 It, our ego wants us not to resolve the worry. One thing that I say is that the most important thing in human development is a vision. 12:12 So have a vision board. Do your vision, do your daily habits, do your goals the most important. And a person who doesn’t fill their mind with that vision, that vision board and their dreams, and doesn’t do self-talk and doesn’t do the back on track every day, a person who’s not doing that leaves a vacuum. 12:30 Now, nature, a boars a vacuum. We know that nature of boza value and it fills it with worry. So the most worried person is the least vision person. 12:42 The more you worry, the worse the wiki your vision is. The more you worry the wiki your vision is, the more you worry the wiki, your vision is the size of your vision determines the size of your life. 12:54 There is nothing in human development more important than your vision. There is nothing. All the inspiration, all the fun, all the happiness, all the gayness, all the love, all the friendship, all the self-awareness, all the things you do, all the university degrees are nothing compared to your vision. 13:14 A person without a vision fills their mind with worry. Meet a worried person. You meet a person who doesn’t have a vision. 13:21 If you have a vision, there is no room for worry. There is just room for commitment, determination, and all the beautiful words we say. 13:29 When you find something that’s really gonna suck you forward into the future, your vision is never set in stone. So it’s a continuous concept of being a visionary, of being an e evolutionary, of being someone who wants to grow and grow and grow at the same time. 13:48 When we go v i p, vision, inspiration, purpose, we say grow with a vision. Be thankful with inspiration and make sure there’s a bigger reason for it all. 13:58 That’s the solution to worry. If you are a worrier and you’re not sleeping at night because you’re worried, your vision shrunk. 14:05 This is Chris. Bye for now.